Parents often do not want to notice the school problems of the child. Someone believes that the offspring should learn to independently find a decision in conflict situations with the teacher in order to prepare for adulthood. Others do not want to intervene so as not to spoil relations with teachers and school principal.
It is at school that the child tries on a model of behavior, which he will then transfer to adulthood.
How to teach a student to fight for his rights, but to maintain respect for teachers?
How to resolve a conflict with a teacher?
The child has a conflict with the teacher.
First of all, try to maintain objectivity. Do not immediately blame the teacher or your own child. The objective indicator in this case is the relationship of the teacher with other children in the classroom, the relationship of the whole class to this teacher. If teachers do not like or are afraid of all children, your child is not guilty of it! Try to raise this issue at a classroom. Does not help – go to the director, ask him to change the strategy of personnel management at school. If the situation does not change, achieve justice in education management.
Remember yourself and explain to the child: no one has the right to humiliate him, nor for knowledge, nor for behavior.
Biased assessments.
If the child believes that the teacher regularly gives him unfair assessments, disassemble a specific situation at home. For which this assessment was reduced: the child did not know the subject or this is a penalty score for a forgotten notebook or poor handwriting? “Rosting analysis” is needed so that the student himself figure out where the error was made. Whatever the answer here, the child should make at least an attempt to independently understand the situation. Advise him to approach the teacher after lessons and clarify what does not suit his work in his work, how he can correct the assessment? Explain to him that the teacher is also a person, he may be upset due to the fact that his subject is not like or carefully listening to the task.
If the problem is not solved, go to the head teacher with your child and ask the commission to test knowledge and give an objective assessment.
School fashion.
It’s good when there is a form in the school or at least a dress code. This means that the director does not give a damn how his students look like. If the requirements for the student’s clothes go far beyond the possibilities of parental wallets, tell the director about this. If costumes, dresses of schoolchildren are inconvenient, require too much effort to put in order, offer to replace the form, make it more free, convenient. These are your children, you have voting rights with them primarily in choosing clothes.
Respect for teachers and for themselves.
In an attempt to teach a child to defend his rights, do not form a belief in him that the teacher is maintenance personnel, and they have their own staff management in schools.
. Talk to the child that all his teachers are specialists in their business. Their task is to convey their knowledge to the class. The task of children is to make maximum strength to understand the subject and find out the new. At the same time, the bilateral process must be respect on both sides. And it is impossible to get respect for yourself if you do not respect yourself.
Do not be afraid of teachers.
Oddly enough, but this call refers to parents. It is from them that you can hear the phrase: “We will not inflate the conflict, the child is still studying here …”, even when it comes to the health and psychological comfort of their children.
Do not be silent if your child is humiliated, they are undeservedly placed poor grades if the student was injured in physical education due to the fault of the teacher.
If you have not met support from other parents, if your actions do not lead to anything, change the school. Just imagine what it means for your son or daughter for several years that will be held in school conflicts. Even if the student’s problems, for example, of the 1-4th grade, last a year-for him this is a large segment of his still small life. And this time he must think thoughtfully and with pleasure for adulthood, and work with a lightning rod for adult complexes.